Michael “Smily” Hurliman: Hope in Healing

Michael “Smily” Hurliman: Hope in Healing

Michael “Smily” Hurliman’s story begins like many others—a high school kid longing to fit in and be accepted. In his teenage years, Michael quickly became known as the guy who could bring alcohol to the party, earning a false sense of popularity. What started with drinking alcohol soon led to smoking weed, and eventually, Michael was introduced to methamphetamine.

By the age of 17, Michael’s life had already begun to spiral out of control. His first visit to rehab came that year, but quickly relapsed into a destructive cycle of drug and alcohol abuse. Trouble with the law followed. Michael later described this period not as feeling defeated, but as being  depleted—there was a void he didn’t yet know how to fill.  

Another stint in treatment seemed hopeful but ultimately he failed to remain clean. Michael’s addictions deepened, and he began selling drugs, further entrenching himself in a life of lawlessness. His family, heartbroken and desperate to save him, staged an intervention when he was 21 years old. The confrontation triggered a torrent of emotions, and Michael retreated to his room in frustration.  

It was in this pivotal moment that Michael’s fate took a remarkable turn. Holding a nickel he considered lucky, he made a decision. “Heads, I’ll go to treatment,” he said to himself. “Tails, I’ll go on the run.” When the coin landed on heads, Michael honored the result and entered treatment once again.  

This time, he stayed clean for a while, but the consequences of his past caught up to him. Arrested for crimes committed during his years of addiction, Michael faced another battle.  

After serving his time on parole, Michael moved to Hillsboro in hopes of starting fresh. Unfortunately, he quickly fell back into the grip of drugs and alcohol. It wasn’t long before he met the woman who would become the mother of his son. With the news of a baby on the way, Michael and Jessica made the decision to clean up their hard drug use and try to build a better life for their growing family. For a time, things seemed to be going well. But the pull of addiction was never far behind.  

As the years went on, Michael found himself struggling once again. But when Jessica was diagnosed with cancer, everything changed. She fought bravely for almost 11 months before passing away, leaving Michael in a deep state of grief and despair. Her death only worsened the hold addiction had over him.  

Hit hard by the loss of his partner and the mounting pressure of his addiction, Michael reached rock bottom. He realized that he couldn’t keep running from his problems and was deeply missing his son. With a long list of warrants, unpassed drug tests, and the looming threat of prison, Michael made a life-changing decision. He called his parole officer and said he wanted to turn himself in and face the consequences.  

During court, Michael learned that he qualified for rehab, a decision that would become the turning point he had been waiting for. His prayer was answered, and Michael entered treatment once again, determined to break free from the chains of addiction. This time, he committed himself to staying clean.  

Michael returned to Tillamook, drawn by the support system, resources, and people who had successfully overcome similar struggles. He knew he needed to be in an environment that would help him stay on the right path. He joined the reentry program offered at Helping Hands, began attending meetings at the Serenity Club and began rebuilding his life.  

Getting clean has transformed Michael in ways he never thought possible. He is now a devoted father to his 15 year old son, and has a steady job at Bob J. Johnson Flooring, and holds the position of President and Board Member of the Serenity Club, where he has served in various roles. His experiences have fueled a deep passion to give back to his community. Michael dreams of helping others break free from addiction and regain their lives, just as he has done.  

Michael’s Advice for Those Struggling 

For anyone battling addiction, Michael offers simple yet powerful advice: “Just show up to a meeting.” Taking that first step to connect with others who understand what you’re going through can make all the difference. Surround yourself with a clean and sober community—friends who will support and encourage your recovery journey. Building those connections is key to staying on the path toward a better life.  

During his time in treatment, Michael found strength in two quotes told to him by an old guy named “1 Legged Larry” that deeply resonated with him:  

“All you have to do is change everything.”  

“Do the next right thing.”  

If you or someone you know is looking for support on their recovery journey, there are local resources available to help:

Serenity Club Tillamook : 5012 Third St. Tillamook, 503-842-1115 (check out their website for meeting days/times

Celebrate Recovery : Tillamook Church of the Nazarene, 2611 Third Street, Tillamook; 503-842-2549 and St. Mary’s By the Sea, 275 S. Pacific Street, Rockaway Beach, 503-318-2370

Helping Hands Reentry Outreach Centers- Tillamook Hope Center : Contact Brianne Prince (503) 354-8014

These organizations provide valuable support, community, and tools for overcoming addiction and rebuilding a better life. Remember, you’re never alone—help is available, and recovery is possible.

 

Looking Forward: SOS Tillamook 2021 Calendar Celebrates “When things change…”

Looking Forward: SOS Tillamook 2021 Calendar Celebrates “When things change…”

Putting 2020 behind us and moving forward into 2021 brings anticipation and question marks unlike any other New Year.  SOS Tillamook, the prevention program of Tillamook Family Counseling, each year seeks inspiration from local students.  This year’s calendar features helpful self-care and mindfulness suggestions that we’ve all needed in 2020.   With so many challenging changes this year, middle school students (6th, 7th and 8th graders) provided lots of creative ideas for “When things change, I cope by …” And they didn’t disappoint – with incredible artwork and thoughtful ways that they are coping with distance learning and new ways of doing things.

The 2021 calendar has been sent out to mailboxes with the excellent advice in January for “Improvising” to “thinking happy thoughts” in February; then a detailed parrot drawing includes the caption … “Learning – I like how birds learn to fly and change into adults & change color, this brings me JOY.” April is graced with a self-portrait, singing to my cat; May’s watercolor depicts meditating by the beach!  June is the perfect time to ride horses with friends, and July finds many of us working on our lawn mowers.  August and September present popular themes – playing outside and going to the beach. Then in October and November we are listening to music and reading.  Baking yummy treats was a perfect idea for December.

If you would like a copy of the SOS Tillamook 2021 calendar, please contact the Tillamook Family Counseling Center.

As we put this uniquely memorable year in the history book, our local students have provided helpful guidance on how to cope as we move forward.  There are now vaccines for COVID-19, but masks, distancing and hand-washing will continue to be our routine for some time to come, but there are ways to cope, and there is help in our community if you need someone to talk to.

Here are more ideas for when things change, ways to cope:

  1. Breathing deeply and visualizing a safe, calm place.
  2. Drawing or painting
  3. Listening to uplifting music
  4. Going to the library
  5. Holding an ice cube
  6. Organizing space
  7. Sitting in the sun and closing your eyes
  8. Sucking on a peppermint
  9. Sipping a cup of hot tea
  10. Complimenting someone
  11. Movement – Exercise
  12. Reading
  13. Write yourself a nice note and keeping it in your pocket
  14. Dancing to music
  15. Going for a brisk 10-minute walk
  16. Going outside and listening to nature
  17. Calling a friend
  18. Write positive affirmations on cards and decorate them
  19. Planting a flower in a pot
  20. Knitting or sewing
  21. Doing yoga
  22. Watching a funny or inspirational movie
  23. Making a collage of your favorite things
  24. Journaling
  25. Writing a poem
  26. Swimming, running or biking
  27. Making a gratitude list
  28. Doing a good deed
  29. Bake cookies to share with someone
  30. MORE IDEAS ….

If you or someone you know is having a difficult time coping, please reach out – there is help and there is hope.  SOS Tillamook – Prevention Program of Tillamook Family Counseling Center can be reached at 503-842-8201.

AUTHOR: Laura Swanson, Tillamook County Pioneer Editor

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